Wednesday, January 7, 2015

60 days, blah, blah, bupkis


Bonne Année tout le monde! Seven days into 2015 already... file that under 'mind blown'.

So Gregory is on his way back to France this morning after the fastest four weeks in history. It was a whirlwind of a visit, but a truly wonderful one.

Now it's time for us to get back to gloomy, January, reality with a Gregory Green Card update.

Here's the deal... the good news; the NVC (that's National Visa Center for those of you lucky enough to not be in the know) finally got back to us after our last 60 day wait (it took 64 days to be exact) and asked us for Gregory's civil documents that are the last step before his interview at the embassy in Paris (please, please, please let this be it). Since Gregory was here and some of the documents we needed were back in France, we had to wait a week for his mother to send them to us before we could send them to the NVC, but we did manage to get them off before the end of the year. Go us.

Now for the bad news, as we were sending the documents off to the NVC, (instead of Gregory just bringing them to the embassy in Paris for the interview as we thought would happen), we just knew that we would be waiting forever again, and sure enough, yesterday morning I woke up to another dreaded, 'please wait 60 days' blah blah blah, putain merde' letter (those last two words are very naughty and should be ignored, forgive me).

So yeah, we are still stuck waiting in 'the process'. That's what my Congressman's office calls it, 'a process', and they say that, 'the process takes time'... process my hiney! Sending out three letters; one after another, basically stating that 'we're too busy' and 'you're going to have to wait two months before we even look at your file' is not part of a process, it's inefficiency, so lets all stop pretending.

And here's the problem with 'the process', When you're in it, you have no idea how long it's going to take, and there's no one that can tell you. But one the one thing I do know is that it used to take a lot less time. I have friends whose spouses got their Green Cards in less than six months! Sure that was like five years ago, but c'mon! It's already been over thirteen months for us, and I can predict we're looking at at least another three, when we thought it would take like, 9 months, tops. Trust me, if we had any idea how long it would drag out (keeping in mind that it took four months for the processing of one form), I would still be hanging out in Le Petit Village, throwing back the Rosé and nibbling on baguettes instead of being roomies with my mother (my poor, poor mother), and I wouldn't have just said goodbye to my husband... again!

Alors, here's the deal, I, Sara Louise, am taking a stance. I refuse to let my life be ruled by the NVC any longer. Gregory and I spent six months of 2014 apart because of their inefficiency and that's not OK, that's not OK at all. So we've made a decision, Gregory will be returning to Texas in four weeks. He will be here for my birthday, he will be here for Valentine's Day, he will be here for our fifth wedding anniversary, and he will stay until his interview at the embassy in Paris is scheduled, or his three months tourist visa is up, whichever comes first. He won't be able to work while he's here, so we'll be broke, but so be it. At least we'll be broke and together. Amen. 

20 comments:

  1. My fingers are tightly crossed for you. Hearing stories like yours are pretty much the reason why my husband and I are staying in France rather than going to the US. Even though I was basically "sans papiers" for a few months (because the Prefecture is the epitome of inefficiency) at least I was legally allowed to stay in France (even though I couldn't work or leave the country). I sincerely hope you both receive good news sooner than the 60 days.

    -Shannon (shannonrh)

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  2. You have a label specifically for green card. :) Actually, that should be a sad face. Sorry. I'm glad he's coming back again so soon. There will be plenty of time to make money later. BTW - That's a lot of gifting around the same time - V-Day, b-day, and anniversary!

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  3. Keeping my fingers crossed for you two, visa processes are never any fun! But I am with you, being together no matter what is always better.

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  4. Can't even believe the bullshit that you've had to go through. So sorry. I like your new plan for him to return in a few weeks. It will be easier to wait if you're at least together. Worries me if we decide to return to the US any time soon. Happy New Year! xo

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  5. Hooray!!! Broke but together is much much much better in my book :)

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  6. Oh Sara I am so sorry!! But broke and together is so much better than being apart. Especially for those special days coming up. Sending you some big hugs and a few bottles of virtual wine to help ease the pain! :)

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  7. Oh dear..I pray that the visa process go smoothly and accelerate faster. Glad to hear you'll be spending the upcoming special occasions together.

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  8. What a nightmare long drawn out wait. Good for you and Gregory for taking drastic action. I hope it works out. May 2015 be the Year of the Visa.

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  9. That stupid process should not take that long. I just don't get it. I am so so sorry you have to go through this. Mine did not take that long but I guess because it was a different visa. I think it is the right decision that he will come back and stay! Glad you will be reunited soon! I am keeping my fingers crossed for you! <3

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  10. Oh my goodness, this is so scary! I can't believe they are taking so long. Still, it is better you guys are together even if it is on a three month tourist visa.

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  11. Bah that is so utterly frustrating but I'm glad you're refusing to let it get in the way of being with your family. Keep us posted (esp if there's good news)

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  12. Happy New Year!!
    Broke but together is the way to go :-)

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  13. Amen to what bevchen said: broke but together. This will all work out dear Sara, keep the faith. And putain merde to this whole process is an appropriate response ;p

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  14. Good for you! Definitely the way to go, fingers crossed that it won't really take 60 days now.

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  15. This is exactly the same route that Luke and I chose to go down and it was a tough one to begin with, but nonetheless the right one to make for us - I wouldn't have wanted it any other way x

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  16. Sweet Sara, I am sorry to hear the latest, but Gregory here again for 3 months. That is good. Can he just return then come back again for another three months and on and on until the process is finished?

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  17. A slightly belated Bonne Année! I'm just getting back into a routine after our festive break. So sorry to hear that once again you have been disappointed and yet again there are more delays. I do think you have made the right decion to be together (but maybe broke!)

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  18. Wishing you both the best, and good luck with everything. Happy 2015! /Madison
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  19. Oh wow, this must be so incredibly hard on you guys!! I know what it feels like to be separated for so long and I hope so much that Keith will be able to move here soon. I keep my fingers crossed for you that the interview is coming fast and that everything will work smoothly finally so you can be with your husband. It's so much harder than I had imagined - to be apart from the person you're married to. It wasn't that difficult before. I'm so happy he's there again to celebrate all those special dates with you! Have a wonderful time - hopefully with happy news before the end of his stay :)

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  20. Broke and together is a good choice. Hope you're having a lovely time with your good man.

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